A big part of living a successful and happy life is being able to take control of your surroundings and maintain balance. This is true in every area of your life- whether it be work, school, or even relationships.
It can be difficult to maintain control when you get overwhelmed with situations that are both big and small. However, there are many techniques to get back on top of things so you can live life how you want it to be lived.
What are the reasons for feeling out of control?
- Unconditional belief in your own ideas
It’s funny how we trust our own thoughts so much.
We make the error of assuming that our thoughts are always truthful and helpful since our culture tends to celebrate our talent for thinking and problem-solving.
- Comforting oneself by relying on others
When you’re worried or distressed, there’s nothing more natural than turning to others for consolation.
In truth, most of us learn to cope with life’s challenges by having a kind parent or caregiver who is sympathetic and consoling when we’re sad. As we grow older, the way they deal with our difficult feelings becomes a model for us to follow.
- Being harsh on yourself when it comes to your feelings
It’s not true that just because your emotions are unpleasant, they’re also unpleasant.
Regrettably, most of us have been raised to think this. We’re taught as children that uncomfortable emotions are problems to be dealt with, like infections or problems to be solved.
- Neglecting your physical well-being
We’ve been focused on the concept of brain and body, or worse, brain vs body, since Descarte (or perhaps Plato). Consider the phrases “thought over matter” and “all in your head.”
Your body includes your brain. And without a functioning body, your mind doesn’t work nearly as well.
How to get back in control?
When you’re struggling and everything seems out of control, you may scream in your car or wonder what you did to deserve this, or you might think it’s never going to get better … Do you know this all comes to you?
However, it turns out that it is more beneficial to deal with our out of control and practice acceptance. Instead of seeing yourself as a victim or the situation as negative, accepting it can make you feel empowered about what you can do.
Make improvements to oneself.
You can improve yourself by devoting time to activities that bring you joy. Take a vacation if you can, go for a hike, read, enroll in a course to learn something new; whatever you do, do it for yourself.
De-clutter
If you’re surrounded by clutter and piles of items that you can’t seem to get rid of, sort through, unpack, or throw away, you’ll never feel in control of your life.
Recognize your situation.
It does not imply that you have given up. It implies you stop wasting your time attempting to change things that are out of your control and instead concentrate on what you can manage. It entails making the most of your resources. It implies that you stop looking for excuses and start taking responsibility for your actions.
Be ready for change
Consider what is going on in your life that makes you feel like you have no control over it. Make a list of all the parts of your life that you would like to alter and those that you must modify in order to live the life you desire.
This is a difficult undertaking, but it is one of the most effective strategies to gain control of your life. Recognize that things need to change in order for you to enjoy your life, then face them head on and create the life you truly desire.
Learn to Believe in Yourself
We often pause because we are fearful of making the wrong decision or because we are concerned about what might happen.
We will never have all of the answers because life is full of surprises. Making the best decision you can based on the knowledge you have at the time—and then trusting yourself—is the key to living the life you desire.
The Upside of Having Control Over our Life
- You stop asking for permission when you take control of your life. You cease requesting permission from others to live the life you want to live.
- You stop looking for approval and expect everyone to veto or approve each of your decisions before you act.
- You’re aware of the consequences of your acts, and for the first time, you’re prepared to deal with them.
- You’ll stop apologizing for yourself because you’re not good or clever enough. You’ll understand you have nothing to apologize for, and anyone who criticizes you isn’t deserving of an apology.
Life is a bumpy ride
When you start to see your life as a series of minor decisions, you’ll realize how much control you have over your life. It’s vital to remember that, while you may not be able to control what occurs to you, you can always control how you react. You reclaim control of your life and completely accept your personal power in this situation.
You can’t control all the consequences that happen to you, but you can certainly control how you react to the end of an incident. Come to think of it, you can create the life you want or let you grow and bring you a miserable life. Do you know that you can control your life or you can choose to wake up your life and get the most out of you?
It is important to take full responsibility for your life as the incidents and reactions are the result. Accountability is one of the most important keys to regaining control of your life and achieving the existence you desire.
Usually you need to change your mind. It’s important to think about what’s possible, not what’s going wrong. By seeing that half of the glass is full instead of half-empty, it’s easier to boldly approach your dreams when you start believing that you can achieve what you want.
